Have you met someone who made you feel uncomfortably curious of who they are and then you find yourself comparing yourself to him/her?
Some cover up insecurity by saying ‘It’s just something about them that I can’t put my finger on,” while secretly comparing themselves to the very person they feel some kind of way about.
Here are some quick ever-lasting steps to stop being insecure around new crowds and people while networking:
1. GET HONEST!
If someone has not done anything to you then you should not have any reason to feel good or bad about him/her. At this point, you need to be honest and get to the root! Could it be that you do not have as many accolades as them? Or when this person inquires about your goals or accomplishments it puts a spotlight on what you are yet to achieve hence making you feel less and not up to par?
Then again, you may very well be versed in the subject but not very articulate in conveying what you know to others – a true introvert if you will.
Maybe it is just purely you are not as well versed as the people you are networking with so due to your lack of knowledge, insight or addition to conversation then you start to avoid that person(s) altogether.
There are a myriad of reasons, but you need to search and define according to your own truth.
2. TAKE ACTION
Now that we know there is a root let’s kill it! Time to up your game!
If you see the root is not being as polished in speech or well-versed then go watch Free YouTube videos on the do’s and don’t’s on the subject! You could also Google it – In the famous words of Andy Mineo, “Don’t be dumb on your smart phone.”
If on the other hand, you see your root is not having as many accomplishments as him or her then enroll for a free webinar or take a Udemy class and receive certified credit for your time and effort.
It could also be that you need someone to talk it out with; If so, speak to someone that is trustworthy to help you or play devil’s advocate at this moment to ensure you take action against this root.
The very first action to kill insecurity in any area of your life is to research and list out the solutions to build self-confidence.
3. STICK TO THE FACTS
Once the root is gone you must fill the empty space with something of substance – the Truth. It could be the truth that you found when you took action and became more polished in that Udemy class you completed or the Truth that you discovered when you Googled or Pinterest’d that subject. The opportunities are endless when we stick to the Facts.
When you feel insecure again just remember to follow this 3 steps and you’ll be able to face any obstacle.